Now that you have decided what it is you really want and you have found a place to stay grounded and regroup, it is time to venture out. Today I wanted to share with you two legacy blogspots from riders4c.blogspot.com. The first is about getting started, the second is about not quitting.
Your Next Two Steps
- Make a decision and go for it even if you are wrong.
- Hang on and ride through the scarey parts because you don’t want to miss the thrill of the adventure.
The Hard Decisions
November 28, 2006
Last evening my 17 year-old son and I watched a program on Leadership delivered by speaker, Chris Widener. He recommended that leaders make hard decisions quickly so that if you make the wrong decision you have more time to fix it and if you make the right decision you have more time to implement it. As my son and I discussed that, we realized a key contribution to our most heated conflicts– he likes to make quick decisions which I always felt were impulsive and I like to analyze the details and make the right decision the first time which he felt was just me procrastinating so I could hold him back.
Fear of Making the Wrong Decision
During the conversation I did realize that I have a fear of making the wrong decision. I have an underlying need to be RIGHT! And so I put off a decision until it is certain to be the right one. The freedom to make the wrong decision with time to correct it may be just what I need.
Make a Decision Even If It Is Wrong
The best part of our discussion was the look on my son’s face when he learned that he had a quality of great leadership. He loved to ‘make hard decisions quickly.’ We both recognized that we had a different way to approach a decision and that somewhere in middle we could come together. He could give me a little more time to gather the facts and I could make a decision a little sooner even if it was wrong.
The Ride Of Your Life
April 4, 2014
“Think harder. Think about a time in your life when you felt really special, a time when you knew you were really and truly, unconditionally loved.”
“I can’t. I can’t remember a time I was unconditionally loved. There’s always conditions. Be this, be that, do this or else. You know.”
“Think back. There must be a time. You have to remember.”
“Why must I remember? Where are you taking me?”
Don’t Give Up
“We have seen it, we have smelled it, we have touched it. Do not be daunted by setbacks. We must find it again. We can’t give up our quest to find our promised land.”
“I thought about it but I can’t think of one time there were not any conditions on love.”
“Think again. What about a special birthday, a special Christmas? Do you remember anything? What about when you learned to ride a bike or went on a family vacation? Oh what about that camping trip you went on with your dad. Getting close?”
Try To Enjoy The Ride…
“Oh I know it! It was the first time I galloped up a hill with my horse. At the bottom of the hill we made a sharp turn and went straight up the hill. It was kind of a surprise because we were running so fast but I held on. We turned directly into the sun and I was blinded. It was thrilling and exciting; like galloping with your eyes closed. I could only feel my way. I leaned forward to compensate for the incline and just tried to enjoy the ride.
HL Open Throttle! 1991-2013
… Even When You Can’t See Where You’re Going
Then I remembered at the very top of the hill was a fence and I got scared. I didn’t know what my horse would do but I didn’t want to stop. I couldn’t see anything because of the sun in my eyes and we were going so fast, faster than I was normally comfortable going when I could see where I was going.”
“So what happened? Did you fall off? Did she jump the fence?”
“Neither. Thank goodness cause I had never jumped a horse. We came barreling up the hill and then without warning she suddenly stopped. I fell forward into her neck and grabbed on. The sun was going down over the trees and I could see again. She had stopped right at the gate. I let out a sigh of relief… pushing myself up off her neck I let out all the breath I had been holding in. I reached back over to hug her around her neck and took in a big breath of her sweaty, horsey smell. Oh I just fell in love with that horse all over again.”
“She knew what she was doing. She took care of you.”
Don’t Miss The Most Amazing Ride of Your Life
“I had to put all my trust in her and she didn’t let me get hurt. It made me feel very special, like we were one. I’ve never felt closer to anyone. She knew where the gate was the whole time. If I had caved into my fear of that fence, I would have missed the most amazing ride of my life!”
It’s our very nature to breathe intimacy and seek adventure. An atmosphere deprived of love and meaning, one lacking a little courage to move toward something greater than where we are now, will choke the life out of our souls. We must continue the search for the promised land… the place we were created for. That place where we lay down our very souls into the hands of the one who created us and fully trust Him, moving together with Him, together as one as he leads us to the place He prepared for us.
Mount up. It’s time for the ride of your life!
Make A Decision Today
You know what you want, you see an opportunity, don’t get stuck thinking yourself out of it. I am not advocating for rash, thoughtless decisions but the most common problem to reaching your goals is failure to act. Take Chris Widener’s advice, make hard decisions quickly so that if you make the wrong decision you have more time to fix it, if you make the right one you’ll have more time to implement it.
Hang On For The Ride
Don’t quit when you get scared. The most crippling conditions are the ones we put on ourselves. Get Moving. Hang on. As long as you are still in the seat, loosen your reins a little. give up a little control, and see where the adventure takes you. Feel the rush of the wind, the thrill of breaking out of your own limiting beliefs, riding through your fears, and the excitement of riding into the unknown.
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